❤️ 23rd October 2017 - Email To R*** My Counsellor

Hi J

At what time you finish work? 
R***

From: Jay
Sent: 22 October 2017 06:15:59
To: RB
Subject: Re: I popped in.....

 

Hey, you sound so formal.... your colloquial language has vanished. Doesn't feel like

I'm talking to you. 

I just think it's hard if financially you're 'stuck in the middle'. I'm too well off to claim more benefits and have the time I need to recover. Yet I'm not rich enough to be able to afford to have the time off to recover.

Most my friends on benefits at Rehab are doing much better. 

I feel ok now.. I always have found that I'm lively until 3pm... then I crash until around 8pm.. then I'm lively again.

At the moment I'm ok when I wake up... then by midday the crippling anxiety starts. Then by 3pm I'm totally depressed, sleepy, lack energy and motivation, then once 8pm hits I feel like 'me' again until I force myself to sleep.

I've already planned how to do it. Please note I said plan not intend. But overdosing on dodgy internet bought medication clearly isn't the way. 

Don't know if i should even be disclosing this, but I'm fed up of hearing the same comments of 'don't do it.' from the few people I can disclose to. Their comments neither change my thinking, nor provide any constructive comments on a solution. 

I'm seriously considering escorting... well the part of me that wants to live is.

The only thing keeping me here is my cat. You don't know anyone who could put up with the cat version of me do you?

I'm so sorry to bother you and please don't feel obliged to reply or anything. It's just nice to vent. Guess I could email that Jo @ Samaritans.. but then I have the hassle of explaining my whole life story again, which in itself is complicated and unbelievable.

It's not that I wasn't committed to aftercare, I just didn't feel the service provided was suitable for me. Maybe Merton, Sutton and surrounding boroughs could pool resources and set up different type of aftercare. I felt so out of place surrounded by people who were at least 10, if not 20 years older than me, recovering from alcohol. 

I think that's why I enjoyed rehab... there was other needle junkies, opiate addicts and speed freak like me. I wasn't the 'worst' person there.

Anyway I'm waffling now.

Sent from Jay’s iPhone

On 26 Sep 2017, at 6:49 pm, RB wrote:

Hi Jay,

I understand this is a difficult time and relapsing on drugs and alcohol difficult to face again...  when you  finished rehab the main concern was to get a  full time job to ( understandably )  pay for the  mortgage of your house. Consequently, there was very little commitment on your part to aftercare but  I am afraid the maintenance of recovery is a longer process and you can only learn from your mistakes.  I do hope you  manage to forgive yourself and move forward again. 

Remember Jay that the present is never as bad as it 'feels' , although what you feel is very real but there are always  ways to resolve problems.  If I am getting this totally wrong please go to A&E or call an ambulance. You can also call the Crisis Line as they open at out of office hours on 0800 028 8000. 

The Samaritans are also a very good support 116 123, it's free. 

I am going to be back at the office tomorrow but maybe with less time than today to contact you but I will try to write to you

Warmest regards, 

R*** x

From: Jay

Sent: 26 September 2017 14:51

To: RB

Subject: Re: I popped in.....

Sorry R***, I just desperately needed to talk to someone.  

I know N isn't the best influence, but since losing my job he's the only person their for me financially.

I wish once I had completed rehab the support I had from MDART and MACs didn't just vanish. I know you do have a stage2 provision, but a twice a month chat with you on the phone would have been really beneficial.

Anyway life is bad and i really don't know how much more I can take. I'm really trying... I just keep getting knocked back. 

Once of my friends from rehab relapsed and died of a fatal heart attack after smoking crack. I'm so jealous. I wish it was me. She had kids to live for. I have nothing.

Sorry, don't feel obligated to reply (although it would be nice and gratefully received).

I just feel so lost, hopeless and I'm close to giving up. 

Thanks Rosa. Sorry for being a disappointment. Sorry for taking up your time if you've read this far.

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